Don’t Call Me, I Won’t Call You

By PAMELA PAUL

NOBODY calls me anymore — and that’s just fine. With the exception of immediate family members, who mostly phone to discuss medical symptoms and arrange child care, and the Roundabout Theater fund-raising team, which takes a diabolical delight in phoning me every few weeks at precisely the moment I am tucking in my children, people just don’t call.

It’s at the point where when the phone does ring — and it’s not my mom, dad, husband or baby sitter — my first thought is: “What’s happened? What’s wrong?” My second thought is: “Isn’t it weird to just call like that? Out of the blue? With no e-mailed warning?”

I don’t think it’s just me. Sure, teenagers gave up the phone call eons ago. But I’m a long way away from my teenage years, back when the key rite of passage was getting a phone in your bedroom or (cue Molly Ringwald gasp) a line of your own.

In the last five years, full-fledged adults have seemingly given up the telephone — land line, mobile, voice mail and all. According to Nielsen Media, even on cellphones, voice spending has been trending downward, with text spending expected to surpass it within three years.

“I literally never use the phone,” Jonathan Adler, the interior designer, told me. (Alas, by phone, but it had to be.) “Sometimes I call my mother on the way to work because she’ll be happy to chitty chat. But I just can’t think of anyone else who’d want to talk to me.” Then again, he doesn’t want to be called, either. “I’ve learned not to press ‘ignore’ on my cellphone because then people know that you’re there.”

“I remember when I was growing up, the rule was, ‘Don’t call anyone after 10 p.m.,’ ” Mr. Adler said. “Now the rule is, ‘Don’t call anyone. Ever.’ ”

Phone calls are rude. Intrusive. Awkward. “Thank you for noticing something that millions of people have failed to notice since the invention of the telephone until just now,” Judith Martin, a k a Miss Manners, said by way of opening our phone conversation. “I’ve been hammering away at this for decades. The telephone has a very rude propensity to interrupt people.”

Though the beast has been somewhat tamed by voice mail and caller ID, the phone caller still insists, Ms. Martin explained, “that we should drop whatever we’re doing and listen to me.”

Even at work, where people once managed to look busy by wearing a headset or constantly parrying calls back and forth via a harried assistant, the offices are silent. The reasons are multifold. Nobody has assistants anymore to handle telecommunications. And in today’s nearly door-free workplaces, unless everyone is on the phone, calls are disruptive and, in a tight warren of cubicles, distressingly public. Does anyone want to hear me detail to the dentist the havoc six-year molars have wreaked on my daughter?

“When I walk around the office, nobody is on the phone,” said Jonathan Burnham, senior vice president and publisher at HarperCollins. The nature of the rare business call has also changed. “Phone calls used to be everything: serious, light, heavy, funny,” Mr. Burnham said. “But now they tend to be things that are very focused. And almost everyone e-mails first and asks, ‘Is it O.K. if I call?’ ”

Even in fields where workers of various stripes (publicists, agents, salespeople) traditionally conducted much of their business by phone, hoping to catch a coveted decision-maker off-guard or in a down moment, the phone stays on the hook. When Matthew Ballast, an executive director for publicity at Grand Central Publishing, began working in book publicity 12 years ago, he would go down his list of people to cold call, then follow up two or three times, also by phone. “I remember five years ago, I had a pad with a list of calls I had to return,” he said. Now, he talks by phone two or three times a day.

“You pretty much call people on the phone when you don’t understand their e-mail,” he said.

Phone call appointments have become common in the workplace. Without them, there’s no guarantee your call will be returned. “Only people I’ve ruthlessly hounded call me back,” said Mary Roach, author of “Packing for Mars.” Writers and others who work alone can find the silence isolating. “But if I called my editor and agent every time I wanted to chat, I think they’d say, ‘Oh no, Mary Roach is calling again.’ So I’ve pulled back, just like everyone else.”

Whereas people once received and made calls with friends on a regular basis, we now coordinate such events via e-mail or text. When college roommates used to call (at least two reunions ago), I would welcome their vaguely familiar voices. Now, were one of them to call on a Tuesday evening, my first reaction would be alarm. Phone calls from anyone other than immediate family tend to signal bad news.

Receiving calls on the cellphone can be a particular annoyance. First, there’s the assumption that you’re carrying the thing at all times. For those in homes with stairs, the cellphone siren can send a person scrambling up and down flights of steps in desperate pursuit. Having the cellphone in hand doesn’t necessarily lessen the burden. After all, someone might actually be using the phone: someone who is in the middle of scrolling through a Facebook photo album. Someone who is playing Cut the Rope. Someone who is in the process of painstakingly touch-tapping an important e-mail.

For the most part, assiduous commenting on a friend’s Facebook updates and periodically e-mailing promises to “catch up by phone soon” substitute for actual conversation. With friends who merit face time, arrangements are carried out via electronic transmission. “We do everything by text and e-mail,” said Laurie David, a Hollywood producer and author. “It would be strange at this point to try figuring all that out by phone.”

Of course, immediate family members still phone occasionally. “It’s useful for catching up on parenting issues with your ex-husband,” said Ms. David, who used to be married to Larry David, the star of “Curb Your Enthusiasm.” “Sometimes when you don’t want to type it all, it’s just easier to talk.”

But even sons, husbands and daughters don’t always want to chat. In our text-heavy world, mothers report yearning for the sound of their teenage and adult children’s voices. “I’m sort of missing the phone,” said Lisa Birnbach, author of “True Prep” and mother of three teenagers. “It’s warmer and more honest.”

That said, her landline “has become a kind of vestigial part of my house like the intercom buttons once used in my prewar building to contact the ‘servants quarters.’ ” When the phone rings, 9 times out of 10, it’s her mother.

There are holdouts. Radhika Jones, an assistant managing editor at Time magazine, still has a core group of friends she talks to by phone. “I’ve always been a big phone hound,” she said. “My parents can tell you about the days before call waiting.” Yet even she has slipped into new habits: Voice mails from her husband may not get listened to until end of day. Phone messages are returned by e-mail. “At least you’re responding!”

But heaven forbid you actually have to listen — especially to voice mail. The standard “let the audience know this person is a loser” scene in movies where the forlorn heroine returns from a night of cat-sitting to an answering machine that bleats “you have no messages” would cause confusion with contemporary viewers. Who doesn’t heave a huge sigh of relief to find there’s no voice mail? Is it worth punching in a protracted series of codes and passwords to listen to some three-hour-old voice say, “call me” when you could glance at caller ID and return the call — or better yet, e-mail back instead?

Many people don’t even know how their voice mail works. “I’ve lost that skill,” Ms. Birnbach said.

“I have no idea how to check it,” Ms. David admitted. “I can stay in a hotel for three days with that little red light blinking and never listen. I figure, if someone needs to reach me, they’ll e-mail.”

“I don’t check these messages often,” intoned a discouraging recorded voice, urging callers to try e-mail. And this is the voice-mail recording of Claude S. Fischer, author of a book on the history of the telephone and more recently, “Still Connected: Family and Friends in America Since 1970.”

“When the telephone first appeared, there were all kinds of etiquette issues over whom to call and who should answer and how,” Dr. Fischer, a sociology professor at the University of California, Berkeley, told me when finally reached by phone. Among the upper classes, for example, it was thought that the butler should answer calls. For a long time, inviting a person to dinner by telephone was beyond the pale; later, the rules softened and it was O.K. to call to ask someone to lunch.

Telephones were first sold exclusively for business purposes and only later as a kind of practical device for the home. Husbands could phone wives when traveling on business, and wives could order their groceries delivered. Almost immediately, however, people began using the telephone for social interactions. “The phone companies tried to stop that for about 30 years because it was considered improper usage,” Dr. Fischer said.

We may be returning to the phone’s original intentions — and impact. “I can tell you exactly the last time someone picked up the phone when I called,” Mary Roach said. “It was two months ago and I said: ‘Whoa! You answered your phone!’ It was a P.R. person. She said, ‘Yeah, I like to answer the phone.’ ” Both were startled to be voice-to-voice with another unknown, unseen human being.

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65 responses to “Don’t Call Me, I Won’t Call You

  1. I think that this article is saying how technology has changed a lot and phone calls aren’t really practicle anymore. I know that I very rarely call people because most of my communication with my friends and family are over text. Both of my parents, all my aunts and uncles, even my grandma know how, and frequently text just becuase it’s easier and quicker in some cases. For example if you just want to remind someone something or quickly tell them something but dont have time for a conversation texting is perfect.

  2. Calling on telephones has become a thing of the past. Texting is what is now most commonly used, not just around teenagers but adults, too! Although calling people is starting to become practically obselete, I believe it is best to use. In a text you can’t hear the feeling in a person’s voice, or even see their emotion as if you were face to face. So, there are ups and downs to this article.

  3. This article is basically about how using a phone to call someone has become so rare. Personally, I usually don’t call someone except when I need an immediate answer. But if I call someone and they dont’t answer, I usually wind up getting a text message from that person asking why I called. I think the facts in this artictle are very accurate and I agree with the writer’s opinion on calling and cell phones and how they have changed.

  4. This article is mainly about how talking on the phone has become more and more rare. I do agree that many people now make texts instead of phone calls. Although this doesn’t really affect me because if someone texts me if I want to hang out, I call them back instead of sending a text and waiting etc. But, I do know people who say don’t call me text me or email me instead. I my parents text me more than I text my parents. Which I find kind of weird because they didn’t grow up in the digital era. That is why I disagree with this article.

  5. I agree with this article. Calling people has seemed to become a thing of the past among teens and adults alike. Teens and adults now seem to be turning toward text messaging more than ever to contact people rather than picking up the phone to actually talk to someone. I think calling is more reliable and just in general a better way to contact someone, since you can actually have a normal conservation with them rather than texting one sentence replies. You also can’t show emotion through texting, so it is more likely that you will be misunderstood while texting than calling.

  6. This article sums up the fact that barley anybody talks on the phone anymore. I agree with this article, except for one part. The article says that most people have to e-mail and say “Is it ok if I call you?” The thing is, I don’t know anyone who e-mails anymore either. Now a days, everybody texts instead. Texting is quick, easy and gets the point across without going through a long conversation. I also agree with the article about the fact that there only a few people I still call. That would be my grandparents. They e-mail, but they don’t text. Therefore, in order to talk about something, I call her or she calls me once in a while. Overall, this was a very true article about how nobody calls or talks on the phone anymore.

  7. This article sums up the fact that barley anybody talks on the phone anymore. I agree with this article, except for one part. The article says that most people have to e-mail and say “Is it ok if I call you?” The thing is, I don’t know anyone who e-mails anymore either. Now a days, everybody texts instead. Texting is quick, easy and gets the point across without going through a long conversation. I also agree with the article about the fact that there only a few people I still call. That would be my grandparents. They e-mail, but they don’t text. Therefore, in order to talk about something, I call her or she calls me once in a while. Overall, this was a very tue article about how nobody calls or talks on the phone anymore.

  8. This article is about how nobody calls anyone anymore. I text everyone. Texting is so much faster and so much easier to flip open your phone and start typing then dialing a number. I agree that calling can be very rude especially if someone is in the middle of something like eating, visiting family, or at a friends house. I call my parents more than anyone else because my parents are more use to calls then texts, but I text my friends. I hardly call my friends.

    • I agree. I think that calling can b rude in those types of situations, and that both methods of contact have their ups and downs. I also text most of my friends rather than call them, but I usually call my parents rather than text them.

  9. This article is bascially about how making phone calls is becoming less and less common. I partially agree with this article because I make a lot of phone calls, but also text too. Texting is good for when people are busy and can just answer it later, or when you are around a lot of people and you can’t hear people talking on the phone. Calls are good for many reasons though. If you get a text from someone saying “thanks for the gift” it is not as personal or thoughtful as a phone call. Calling is also better for talking to people from an older generation who are not able to text. Overall I think calling and texting are both valuable to the communication of people.

    • I agree with you 100%. Texting is quick, easy and gets the point across. I don’t know anyone who still talks on the phone!

    • I somewhat agree with you. Texting and calling are both valid forms of communication, but I feel that calling is more efficient. With a call you can listen to the voice and hear the hurt or happiness. In a text u could misinterpret a person’s emotion.

  10. This article is about how nobody calls anyone anymore. I kind of agree with this article. Yes, I don’t call as much as I text, but I do still call people. Sometimes I don’t feel like texting, or I want to talk to that person immediately. I also don’t agree with this article because I don’t think calling is a bad idea like they said in this article. Phone’s are for calling, not just texting. I also don’t think it is impolite to call someone. If you need to talk to them you call them, if they are busy doing something else then they can ignore it.

    • I agree with you that calling isnt really a bad idea like they say in the article. Also I agree thats its bad that you cant always talk to the person immediatly while texting.

  11. The article “Don’t Call Me, I Won’t Call You” is about how talking on the phone is becoming a thing of the past. I personally don’t agree with this article, I usually call my friends and family a lot instead of just texting. I feel like if you text someone, the person can’t tell your emotion. Texting can cause lots of misunderstandings, so I chose to call most of the time.

    • I definitely agree with you when you say that texting looses the emotion in a conversation. My philosophy is if they text me it is unimportant if they call its important, that is why it can take me days to respond to a single text message. I also agree with you when you say that texting can cause misunderstandings.

  12. This article is mainly about how phone calling is not getting used very much. I have noticed that I rarely get phone calls on my cell phone. I have grown more accustom to texting. But, I do feel that my home phone is always ringing. The calls are almost always for my mom, but like the article said it is really annoying hearing the phone ringing. Then it is always a struggle to get to the phone. I think that phone calls are a inconvenience, and that texting has taken over the communication world. But, the people that I do call are usually my grandparents. I only call them because they do not know how to text.

    • I agree with you andrew i also rarely get calls on my cell phone everyone texts me now. I also agree with you about home calls everyone who calls my home is for my mom too.

  13. This article is mainly about how phone calling is not getting used very much. I have noticed that I rarely get phone calls on my cell phone. I have grown more accustom to texting. But, I do feel that my home phone is always ringing. The calls are almost always for my mom, but like the article said it is really annoying hearing the phone ringing. Then it is always a struggle to get to the phone. I think that phone calls are a inconvenience, and that texting has taken over the communication world. But, the people that I do call are usually my grandparents. I only call them because they do not know how to text.

  14. This article is about how calling people on the phone over the years has become less popular. In this article it says that now, “Phone calls are rude, intrusive, awkward.” I could understand hearing that from a teenager, but I did not expect it to come from any adults. After I read this article it made me realize how little time I spend talking on my phone. Now people use text, email, Skype, etc. The only people I call on the phone is my grandparents because, they don’t know how to text. Also, texting allows you to multi task instead of being totally engaged in a conversation with another person. However, I do have a home phone which I use as well. For example if a friend texts me on my phone and I do not pick up. They need another way to contact me, so they may call my home phone which I will pick up and talk on the phone with them. In conclusions as much as I text and email I do talk on the phone a little.

  15. The article, “Don’t Call Me, I Won’t Call You” is about how talking on the phone is becoming less and uncommon. I know I text so much more than I call people, but I was surprised to see that teenagers aren’t the only ones that stopped calling people. Even though our parents didn’t grow up during, the “texting era,” they are also texting and e-mailing on phones. Ever since texting has become popular, it has been changing the way most people communicate in our society.

    • I was also surprised when I heard adults text. When my mom got a new black berry she did not know what texting was. Now all she does is text.

  16. This article is about how people are calling people on the phone a lot less. I text more than I call on my phone but i think calling is very useful. You can get in touch with the person a lot quicker by calling than texting. If people don’t answer your call than you know there not by their phone instead of sending them 10 texts waiting for a reply. Talking is a lot more clear like you can easyly get the wrong message while texting. Also if you text the wrong person you already said it what you said and it can be about them. If you call the wrong person you’ll hear the difference in the persons voice. This is why calling can be better.

  17. I think that it is good that people don’t call anymore. What is the need anyway, people don’t need to hear your voice, they just want to know what your want to say. I think texts are just fine, voice mails are good too. I honestly don’t think it is such a big deal, it really isn’t such a bog deal.

    • I one hundred precent agree with you.

    • I disagree with what you said about not needing to call people. Anybody can push a few buttons on a phone, but taking the time to call shows you care. If you did something, it is nice to be shown appreciated with a voice thanking you.

  18. This article is about how calling people is “old school”. I don’t agree with this article at all. I call people a lot! Also I’d rather call people than text because it was easier and faster. Calling makes life easier too. This is because calling a friend or someone will go right to the person (unlike texting, not knowing if they got your text) and make things less confusing. But I also think that some people have stopped calling due to the fact of the amount of radiation going into you. Overall I disagree with the article but I have a few exceptions.

    • I completely agree with you. I call a lot too and it is much easier than texting. You also make a good point when you said when you text you do not know if the message got through to the other person.

    • I agree, I call people all the time! It is much easier and faster then texting. Texting can also be confusing because you don’t know if they got it or not. Good job!

  19. This article is about how calling other people is becoming less and less popular. But, I wouldn’t really understand this too well because I don’t have a phone so I haven’t really expierienced calling people or texting people too much. From what I’ve seen hanging out with friends I think that this article is spot on because everyone even my parents are texting other people. My parents answer about one call a day from what I see. I think that calling is going to keep going down and soon enough we are never going to call someone ever again.

  20. I think this article is about how calling is a thing of the past. I’m not one to text, but when I do it usually is about up-coming events, plans, etc. When I call, I’m usually calling my grandma to check in. I also agree with Mr. Adler, I don’t like getting calls, because when the call reaches me, it is always at the wrong time.

    • I agree, I don’t enjoy getting calls either. I would much rather get a text, its just easier and more efficient.

  21. I think that this article is about how the phone call is going out of style. I partially agree with this article because I call lots of people to hang out or to get picked up from someone’s house. The only time I text people is if it is really important. You’d think it’s the other way around because in this article the author says how a phone call usually means something happened or someone needs help, but with me I usually call my friends and family for little things like getting picked up from somewhere. Even though I still make phone calls I still do text a lot. At home, I am texting people probably 90% of the time. I am actually texting someone right now. I think this article is accurate when they say that phone calls aren’t used that much anymore, but in my opinion they are still used more than texting still.

    • Now Joshua, I agree with you on how calling is out of style, I believe that should be a fact. Joshua I really do love your point of view on this article.

  22. This article is mostly about how many people don’t talk on their phones anymore and how people usually will text or email instead. I completely agree with most of this article. I don’t talk on the phone when I need to communicate, I use other ways, like the article said. A new way that’s slowly becoming used more and more is video chatting. Now people can see each other when they want to talk. This is becoming popular when people work so they are able to talk to each other through the computer, but yet be doing emails and other work on their computer at the same time. I also disagree with this article. I disagree when the author writes how it is a burden when someone calls you without emailing you first. I don’t think it is a bother. When people usually call me it is usually something important or urgent. Talking on the phone is just a faster way to tell someone a lot of information quickly. If someone has something important to tell me I wouldn’t think it was bothersome.

  23. I don’t know who this writer contacted for information but she must not have contacted my family. Most of our arrangements are made via phone. Although we do send and receive many emails i find it is easiest to arrange dates and times with people over the phone because they are talking to you live and can hold a conversation quicker than if i am waiting for a response which can take a day to weeks depending on when the person re-mails me.

  24. This article is about reasons why people don’t use their phones anymore. I’ve never really thought about this, but after I read this article it made me realize that people don’t really use phones anymore. Everything now is done through e-mails and text messages. I don’t call many people either. Only my grandparents, my dad sometimes, and our home phone. Occasionaly my mon when we need to discuss something. This is mostly because I don’t want to interupt people like the article said. If they don’t want to get back to me now or can’t that is fine be me because I know what that is like. Another reason why people e-mail and text more now may be because they can both be used for mass communication. In other words, you can tell a lot of people the same thing with just the push of a button. Besides all of the reasons for texting and e-mailing, I still call people sometimes and receive calls.

    • I agree with you, I also did not notice how much phone calling has decreased in use. Like you, I also call my grandparents.

  25. This article is about how any type of voice communication over phones has become less popular over the years. People just seem to find alternatives. Most, including me, would expect that only teenagers thought calling was not necessary but, this article states everything differently. I have mostly given up calling for texting but, do not find it surprising when I get a call because I haven’t completely taken out calling from my life. I tend to text or use Skype voice chat instead of calling on a phone because it’s clearer, cheaper, and simple. My parents don’t use texting but, they do use e-mail. I guess people just find typing a lot easier. I agree because you don’t need to respond, you have time to change your mind or fix mistakes and, it’s what most people do. Overall, I don’t think it’s the voice communication but, more like the use of phone calling. Skype and other things are used often but, texting still remains a very common way for communication.

  26. This article is about how texting is becoming more and more popular and calling becoming less and less popular. Personally, some of the only times i call somebody is if its urgent or my dad, because he doesn’t know how to text. I was very surprised to even see that adults are texting more too along with teens.

    • I was also surprised that it wasn’t only teens that use texting but, agree that teens still use calling for certain times.

    • I agree with you 100% because texting has taken this world by storm but if you need to say something quick and you need an answer than you call because its quicker.

    • I think people call a lot more than we think. I text people more people but calling is not that bad.

  27. This article is about how talking on the phone has become less common, now that texting has gotten big. Personally, I text way more than I call people mainly because it is easier and faster. I was really suprised to see that not just kids are not calling as much but also parents, who now are learning to either text or use smartphones. I believe calling has become less common because everyone now adays are very busy, and texting people is way faster and less distractive. Finally, I think texting will get bigger as the years go by and calling people will continue to diminish.

    • That is a valid point that texting is faster and less distractive. That is probably a big reason why many people are switching to it.

  28. This article mostly talks about how the uses of phones have changed since they were first made. For example, when phones were new people would call each other up just to talk. Although, now “Phone calls are rude. Intrusive. Awkward.” This is because most people email or text people instead. In the article Ms. Birnbach said, “Many people don’t even know how their voice mail works.” I don’t think this statement is true because cell phones have been out for a while and voicemails are pretty common. I think this is an interesting article, especially because in a few years things might be completely different.

    • I dont agree with you, but I do understand what you are saying. People use phones all the time from my point of view. I do think the article is interesting and I think that its cool how in a few years everything might change.

    • I agree with you about the part when you wrote how people actully do know there voicemails work. Many people do leave voicemails and others listen to them. This isn’t a rare event. Good thoughts!

  29. I don’t agree with this article 100%. Although some parts of the article are true, when Mr. Adler said. “Now the rule is, ‘Don’t call anyone. Ever.’ ” it is a totally false statement. Many parents don’t text a lot so people our age wouldn’t text their parents, they would call them. Many times, I call people because if I have something important to say, texting can’t emphasize the importance. Personally, I like calling people more because it’s more personal and not just words on a screen.

    • I agree with you that most parents sill call instead of text. I also agree with you that sometimes calling is better if you have something important to say. Good job.

    • You make a good point in that by calling people you can emphasive the importance more than by texting them. Also, I agree that the quote you have is a false statement and that parents don’t text as much, so people our age wouldn’t text their parents.

    • I completely agree with your idea. I like texting better but it does help emphasize importance.

  30. This article was about how nowadays, people don’t pick up the phone, they email or text. I was surprised to see that this article wasn’t only about kids and texting, adults are giving up the phone too. Now that I think about it, my parents are always emailing and checking emails for work on their black berrys, not talking on the phone. I personally text 99% of the time unless something is really important. I disagree with this article though that if something is urgent, you email. Picking up the phone is easiest because if someone calls you over and over, you’ll get the hint that its important. Email can go for days without being checked.

  31. The article, “Don’t Call Me, I Won’t Call You” is about how talking on the phone is becoming less and less common. I know I text much more than I call people, but it surprised me to see that teenagers aren’t the only ones that stopped picking up the phone. Even though our parents aren’t growing up now, in the “texting era,” they are also texting and e-mailing on smartphones such as Blackberrys. Ever since texting has become popular, it’s been changing the way most people communicate in our society.

    • I agree with you, now that texting is how kids have begun to communicate, parents too are falling into the texting era because of their kids. The phones we have now are a part of it and I also text more than I call.

  32. After reading this article I was suprrised that kids are not the only ones giving up calling. For most of teens these days calling is a akward way to communicate. With texting clearly becoming the more dominate way to talk, there is no ponit of have a conversation when texting is faster and easier. The only point of critiszim i ahve for this article is that some phrases were hard to understand, as they are probably quotes that arent used so much today.

    • I disagree 100% texting is in no way faster or easier. You have to wait for the person to receive your text, read it, and respond, then wait for it to be delivered to your phone. With conversations, they are more immediate, there is no lag between ideas so you can go back and forth easier.

  33. This article doesn’t connect with me, no pun intended. Most of the people in our area definitely call a lot. I can’t say for sure whether people text more, but people in our area definitely call others. I think that this article banks too extremely towards the idea that nobody should call, ever. It doesn’t make sense to me why someone would consider calling rude. It’s not so much “drop everything and listen” all the time, because even though we do so much, we wait a lot of the time. I will agree that calling during dinner at a restaurant or something of the like is rude, and should be avoided.

    • I agree with you, You don’t have to be paying full attention when you’re on the phone. It’s just more easier to get a message across. I like it better than calling

      • I have to contadict you a little Ian, texting cost much less and uses less battery to do. Many calls require a certain ammount of “bars” but exting can go down to almost no service. But other than that yes, this does sway more toward the side of “anti” phone.

  34. I don’t completely agree with this article. I agree on the part when the text usage goes up and the calls go down butI have definetly not given up calling. I almost use it more then texts. It depends who with. My parents and I call alot to talk about plans for the day. We text on small questions like where are you? With my friends though it’s different we text a lot because we are to lazy to talk. Also you can just no respond texting if you have to go. I might be different but i think calling is more clear and specific.

    • I agree with you , Ben. I haven’t completely given up on calling either; I call people when I need a fast, clear answer.

    • I agree with you Ben. I actually find calling more reliable than texting because a text tone is usually a small beep or something, but when you call someone it is a long song or tone that catches most people’s attention. My group of friends and I are very unreliable, so we don’t usually text each other if we want to hang out, usually, we just call each other.

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